A relationship may be serious or casual, monogamous or not, short-term or long-term. Dating abuse does not discriminate – it does not see gender, sexual identity, economic status, ethnicity or religious preference.

Every relationship is different, but the one thing that is common to most abusive dating relationships is that the violence escalates over time and becomes more and more dangerous for the young victim.

What Does Dating Violence Look Like?

Teens and young adults experience the same types of abuse in relationships as adults.

This can include:

  • Physical Abuse: Any intentional use of physical force with the intent to cause fear or injury, like hitting, shoving, biting, strangling, kicking or using a weapon.
  • Verbal or Emotional Abuse: Non-physical behaviors such as threats, insults, constant monitoring, humiliation, intimidation, isolation or stalking.
  • Sexual Abuse: Any action that impacts a person’s ability to control their sexual activity or the circumstances in which sexual activity occurs, including rape, coercion or restricting access to birth control.

Ten Warning Signs of Abuse

While there are many warning signs of abuse, here are ten common abusive behaviors:

  1. Checking your cell phone or email without permission
  2. Constantly putting you down
  3. Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  4. Explosive temper
  5. Isolating you from family or friends
  6. Making false accusations
  7. Mood swings
  8. Physically hurting you in any way
  9. Possessiveness
  10. Telling you what to do

Help is Only a Phone Call Away

If you or a loved one is in a violent relationship, please get help. Call our hotline at 814-944-3585 or
1-800-500-2849
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Characteristics of healthy relationships:

  • Your partner respects you and your individuality.
  • You are both open and honest.
  • Your partner supports you and your choices, even when they disagree with you.
  • Both of you have equal say and respected boundaries.
  • Your partner understands that you need to study or hang out with friends or family.
  • You can communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences.
  • Both of you feel safe being open and honest.
  • You compliment and encourage each other.

For additional information and resources, visit www.loveisrespect.org.